Most people look forward to the holidays: seeing strangers in a good mood, imagining happy family time, exchanging kind words with friends. More often than not, though, our hopes for a perfect holiday go out the door when our kids go crazy from all the dessert and lack of adult supervision, uninvited guests come over, family members start arguing, or no one likes your cooking (but this is how *I* make it, honey…).
The “most wonderful time of the year” isn’t always so wonderful, huh? If it’s your goal to have a stress free holiday, good luck! As far as I know, that doesn’t exist. But if you want to figure out how to deal when the stress hits, then I’ve got three things for you to remember when it starts to get to you:
3 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN THE HOLIDAYS START TO STRESS YOU OUT
I. Remember what you want to get out of the holidays and focus on that
Focusing on the one thing you want to get out of the holidays will surely prevent you from wasting your time and energy on things that don’t matter in the long run. So get specific: what one thing do you want from the holidays?
- Is it to make sure your kids have a great holiday?
Ask them what that means to them, and do it. I’ll bet majority of kids will say this: spend time doing stuff with you and get presents. If that’s the case, stop fussing about the house being decorated to the T, or over planning your holiday schedule. Go spend that time with your babies!
- Is your wish to keep your home “crazy free”?
Think about going out for the holiday dinner instead, or accepting an invite to someone else’s home for a change! You won’t be the one slaving away at the stove or dealing with the aftermath. You also won’t have to worry about your home being invaded by guests! Great idea, huh?
- Is it to have a “meaningful” holiday?
We can get pretty wrapped up in gift giving, menu planning, and decorating our homes, but we all know there’s more to the season than that. If you want to try something different, try helping someone who truly needs it. Volunteer your family’s time at a soup kitchen or a shelter. Being a help to someone is a very humbling and eye opening experience. You’ll learn a lot about how blessed you really are, and the holidays will take on an entirely different meaning for the better.
Whatever your goal is, focus on that instead of the chaos that may ensue!
II. No matter what you do or how well you plan, you will still get a little stressed out or emotional
That’s okay, friend, it happens! Nothing in life is perfect, not even the holidays. We put too much pressure on ourselves to try and create some magical holiday experience. The thing is, if it falls short by even a little bit, we’re the only ones who feel disappointed – no one else notices! Whatever the situation, take a break, allow yourself to have your feelings, accept the disappointment, then move on to dessert. Dessert makes everything better.
III. Don’t feel bad if you have to take a time out for yourself
For real, don’t ever feel bad about taking time out to care for yourself ever! If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and make yourself the priority. And anyway, people would much rather have you go missing for an hour or two, than to have you ranting and raving over every little thing, and putting a negative spin on the occasion. If need be, go for a walk, schedule a massage or facial – any kind of “me” time in the middle of the hubbub. No one needs to know what you’re doing during that time – for all they know, you could be Christmas gift shopping!
I hope your holidays are so wonderful, you never have to remember these three things to buoy your spirits. But if you do find yourself referring to this list, stay positive, keep your goals in mind, and enjoy the season! I’m rooting for you!