Last week, I posted a quote by Teddy Roosevelt on Instagram, and a week later, it’s still making me think. It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others. A lot of the time, it starts off innocently, “I just love her shoes!” Then you start looking at posts on social media, or picking up on things in conversation and think, “Wow, she’s got her life together.” Next thing you know, you’re saying, “Why can’t I be more like her? If I was, I wouldn’t have to deal with all this crap,” which slowly turns into, “I hate my life.” Have you ever felt that way or said something similar to yourself?
Comparison doesn’t do anything for us except hurt our own hearts, and place a cloud of self doubt directly over our heads. So this #Monday – the first day of a fresh, new week – let’s love *ourselves* by loving one another! Have an amazing Monday, friends! 💗 #nocomparison #loveyourself #beyou #youarebeautiful
The snowball effect of comparison is so quick, before you know it, you’re complimenting a person one moment, and with a turn of the back, you’re tearing them (or yourself) down! When we begin to look at other people with a critical eye, subconsciously hoping to feel better about yourself – “Well, at least I don’t do that…” – we’re going down a slippery slope.
Comparison is our personal insecurities coming out to taunt us. Don’t think you’re talented enough? How do you feel when you see someone doing what you wish you could do? Don’t believe you’re beautiful or that your voice matters? Check how you react to people who are popular/beautiful/have the opportunity to speak their mind.
Everyone struggles with comparison, whether comparing mothering skills, job titles, zip codes, or something as trivial as who has better hair. Comparison is a thief, and I urge us all to quit this nonsense!
If you’re currently struggling with comparison, here are three things to remember that will help you push past it!
- Be Kind To Yourself
First off, if you feel bad about comparing yourself to someone, DON’T! You’re not the only person in the world who has ever compared themselves to another person (someone in the world is doing it right now)! Second, understand that comparison is human nature – we’re either working to keep ourselves from comparison, or learning to get out of those damaging thoughts faster.
In your head, list off ten things about yourself that you LOVE. Not just “like”, but LOVE. Go ahead. Do it. I bet you start to feel better quickly!
- Count Your Blessings
It’s easy to count your blessings when you hear stories of tragedy, but boy, the rest of the time? We’re too busy taking things for granted! Having a grateful attitude toward your life will do wonders for your attitude. When you go through life recognizing all the things you’re already blessed with, there’s no room for doubt and discontent to take root in your heart!
List ten things that you are truly thankful for.
- Stay In Your Lane And Focus On Your Dreams
When you stay in your lane, you literally have no time to worry about anyone else. Personally, once I decided to take my blog to the next level, I haven’t had much of a chance to do any comparing. I’m more concerned with using my time to get things done for my business and taking it further! So focus on making your own dreams come true! When you truly invest in yourself, you will not have time to play the comparison game. You’ll be too busy with your accomplishments!
List five things you hope to accomplish, and add what you can do today to take you closer to that goal.
At the root of it all, comparison is operating from a place of lack. Somewhere along the line, we believed a lie – that we aren’t capable, lovable, talented, or whatever you struggle with. It’s time to give up that lie and start pursuing the truth: you are loved, unique, kind, and able. We need to recognize that we aren’t less than or better than anyone else. We’re all in the same boat: blessed beyond measure!