Just a few, short years ago, I didn’t have a care in the world. I could get on a plane and go wherever I wanted – with just one bag. I could justify not doing groceries for a week so I could buy clothes. If I was too lazy to cook, I drove down to McDonald’s. It was all about me.
And then, that same ‘me’ got married, bought a house, had a baby, got dog…
WHOSE LIFE IS THIS, ANYWAY?
While I was pregnant, a girl I worked with said to me, “Aren’t you afraid of losing your ‘cool’ factor?” What? Who says that?! Those words cut me deep: I was so happy to have my baby, but I never thought twice about being labeled a mother.
I struggled with who I was going to become and with my preconceived notions of what a mother was. Could I be cool and a mom? Could I be relevant and a mom? Could I wear stilettos and be a mom? I mean, when I thought of my own mother, I didn’t think she was cool – she was just mom. But, I’ve been thinking about my mom:
* She was younger than I am now when she had me, she had to have been smokin’ hot
* She had a career while raising me, my brother, and sister
* She was pretty fashionable
* My mom is intelligent
Why do people think that being a mom, including many moms-to-be, means being boring and bland? Is it the media? Is it the people around us that don’t have children and the comments they make? Is it our insecurities?
Being a mom is hard work. In fact, it’s the hardest and most important job I’ve ever had in my entire life. I’m in charge of the development of another human being, I’m responsible for the complete care of another individual! I have to create a world where a precious, little one can be free to grow into his own person. AGH! The pressure!
With all that being said, you know what? I haven’t lost my cool factor! I am me and I’m awesome, because now, on top of all the other things I can do and have done, I’m a mom, too! MOM’S RULE!